Let’s talk numbers! It’s the end of week 5 since I started working out again and trying to transform my body. I’ve changed up my diet, I’ve worked out 5-6 days a week, I’ve been lifting and doing different types of cardio (row machine, running, spin class, bike rides). The scale told me that I’ve gained 2 pounds! Do you know how frustrating that is to me? Here I am putting in as much work as I can, trying my hardest and not only has the scale not gone down, it actually went up some! I decided to take my measurements again and compare them from day 1. I’ve lost just over 11 inches throughout my body! That’s huge! If I hadn’t taken my measurements with a tape measure in the beginning I would feel so discouraged right now. I complained to my husband for a minute, he told me the scale number doesn’t matter! I said, “But it does!” He asked me would you rather have those 11 inches back and the scale be a smaller number? Well no, definitely not! Why do we let the number on the scale affect us so much? I decided that I’m going to quit weighing myself for a few weeks and just keep working hard at eating right and killing it in the gym. Staying consistent with my food intake and getting up every morning at 4 AM to hit the gym is slowly but surely paying off. I keep trying to remind myself it’s not a sprint, it’s a marathon. It’s a lifestyle it’s not a diet. I want to be healthy and fit. I want to be an example for our 4 kids. Basing my health and how I feel about myself off of the number on the scale is not the example I want my kids to see. I love when they see me come back from the gym drenched in sweat and asking me how my workout is. I love that we drive by McDonalds and they say, “I don’t like that place it’s not healthy!” I love that my husband and I have made living a healthy lifestyle an important part of our family. As long as you’re doing the best you can, trying hard every day, putting in the work, then you’re doing great! The number on the scale no longer needs to be the focus!
So it’s a new year and I’ve reflected a lot on this last year. I didn’t write anywhere near as much as I had wanted/planned to do! This year I’m hoping things can be different. I want to write more, and I’ve been looking into starting a podcast and having friends of mine on it. It would be geared towards military wives and moms, and just women in general. Something fun!
My four kids are growing rapidly and I’m not really sure I like it! I feel like time is flying by way too fast! I want to soak up as much time with them as possible. Feel like they’ll be off to college starting their own lives before we know it! My twins are turning 1 tomorrow and I’ve been trying to figure out where this last year went. It’s bitter sweet to me that they’re already turning 1. They are seriously two of the best babies! They’re already running around everywhere and have so much personality. My 6 year old is so impressive. She’s the most competitive child I’ve ever met; we just have to show her where to direct all of that competitiveness. She’s smart, funny, fast, and has the most caring heart. My 4 year old will give us a run for our money one day. She’s just too cute for her own good. She makes me laugh daily, and she’s a different character every time I turn around. She’s the kid you see in the grocery store dressed as a dinosaur; she has absolutely no shame in her game!
My husband and I just celebrated 10 years of marriage! Every single year together has gotten better and better. We’ve really tried to become more of a team and work together more. I’m so excited for our future and achieving all of the goals we have.
I only have a few minutes to write something down today, but I did just want to put it out there that I’m going to make this more of a priority! Talk with ya soon!
It’s been 6 months since I became a mom of 4. I’ve felt so many different emotions over the last several months. Knowing that I’ll never be pregnant again (I love being pregnant). Knowing that these are my last babies and soaking up every single thing that they do. I don’t want to miss a move! Struggling with my body image but also knowing that I carried 4 babies to full term; and 2 at once one of the times. I have been blessed to have easy and healthy pregnancies/deliveries.
After every birth I go through that stage where I just don’t like what I see in the mirror. I have stretch marks, I’m bigger, my body jiggles, my face is rounder, and I’m just struggling to like what I see. I often wish that I was one of those “lucky” girls that lose weight from nursing their babies. But then I have to remember that I am a “lucky” girl because not only can I nurse my babies, I’m nursing two at one time! I think about how I only have to make it 6 more months and then I can be done. But then I don’t want the next 6 months to fly by because that means my tiny babies are going to be toddlers!
This week I’ve really taken it in my hands to try and eat as healthy as I can and try to get myself healthy and happy! I want to take all the kids to the pool and beach and not be worried if somebody is going to see my body and judge me. I know that most people are too busy focusing on their own insecurities and flaws to really worry mine! I love that when I work out my children LOVE it! My older girls tell me to run faster, or cheer me on, or jump in and start doing squats and push-ups with me. I love that I can hold my babies to have added weight to my squats or lunges. They giggle and it keeps me going.
My husband probably thinks I’m crazy because he knows how much I love being pregnant and seeing my belly grow, but I complain for months on end after I give birth about how much I don’t like my body. “Why continue to go through that multiple times if you’re not going to like yourself after.” Well because I love my babies and I know that I will get myself back where I want to be. It’s not going to be as fast as I’d like, but it will happen.
So I’m off to start this fitness journey, hope you’ll join me, motivate me, and even throw some tips my way!
Today I was out enjoying this beautiful first day of summer! It was perfect, not too hot, nice little breeze, sitting on the beach! Going to the beach used to be my favorite thing to do! I’d grab a bottle of water, some headphones, and a towel and off I went! Fast forward to today! I had to tote half my household down to the water along with our 4 kids!
There is absolutely nothing relaxing about going to the beach with your kids. It honestly wouldn’t have been too bad if it was just my older two girls, but bringing 5 month old twins along with me was a lot! (luckily I had a great friend to help me out) I used to go to the beach and take some of the best naps of my life! Now I’m lucky if I get to sit down for more than a minute unless I’m feeding a baby!
If you’re planning on going to the beach this summer with babies I highly recommend a tent that they can sit/lay in! My twins laid there and played with a few toys and then went to sleep. I also brought a battery operated fan to help circulate some of the breeze we had going. Another life saver for me was having a beach wagon! The twins aren’t quite big enough to where they can sit up on their own, so I had to bring their bumbo seats as well. I was able to have all of our towels in a bag, the twins in the wagon, my 4 year old holding her puddle jumper and beach toys, my 5 year old carried the tent and I carried a cooler full of drinks and snacks.
It honestly went better today than I imagined it would. We chose a beach that didn’t really have waves; that way the kids could play without me having to worry about a wave taking them away. The twins really just wanted to eat and sleep; so that worked out well. The absolute worst part of the entire beach trip was loading everyone and everything up! By that time everyone was exhausted, the babies were hot, we were all covered in sand, and we had half of our household out on the beach! I had considered going to work-out later today but I’m pretty sure I lost 5 lbs just toting everything to and from the car!
I’m not sure how some moms do it and make it look so easy! I’m pretty sure today was one of those days that I would get told a million times from people “you sure got your hands full” if there would’ve been a lot of people around. I’m learning as a mom of 4 that you just have to prepare yourself for things to go wrong, and be extra grateful when they go great! I sometimes get scared to take everyone out on my own because I don’t know how any of the kids will behave. But I also have realized that I can’t punish my older two girls by not taking them out to do things just because I have the twins to tend to as well.
My only other piece of advice for those of you going to the beach with or without your kids, bring baby powder! Saves you from bringing a ton of sand back into your car! Pour it on y’alls legs and feet and the sand will come right off!
I’ve been asked numerous times how I get through deployments. I almost always answer, “I have to, there’s no other option.” Our children need me, and my husband needs to know his wife is able to handle it. We have been separated due to the military several times, sometimes for just a few weeks, sometimes a month, sometimes several months, and one time a year. We’ve been married about nine and a half years; we’ve been a part due to the military for a total of two and a half years! Which to some is a lot, and to other military spouses that’s not too bad.
Our first deployment wasn’t too bad because I was deployed at the same time; I left before him and got back a few weeks before he came home. We didn’t have children, made it so much easier! Our next big deployment wasn’t until our second daughter Presley was born and she was nine months old and Emma was two and a half. It was very hard. We were at a base where I only had two friends and luckily cousins living nearby. Emma was at the age where she realized her daddy wasn’t home and would cry out for him some times. How do you console a two year old that can’t comprehend why her daddy isn’t around? Luckily we all live in the wonderful time of facetime!
I tried to keep the kids busy as much as possible and also tried to keep myself occupied. I tried making sure we had a routine and stuck to it, and we also tried to make it where we talked to my husband around the same time every day. Children thrive off of consistency! We would go once a month to the deployed family dinners where we were surrounded by families in the same boat as us. They tried to make it as fun as possible for the kids and made them feel special. I’d take them to story time at the library, parks, swimming, ice cream dates, make giant blanket forts, church, and anything else to occupy our minds and not so focused on missing daddy.
It probably wasn’t even a month after my husband came back from this deployment that he was notified he was doing a year short tour overseas. I remember feeling so crushed! I’m one of those wives that love to always have her husband around even if we’re not doing anything. I just love his presence. We luckily had several months to prepare and this time we chose for the girls and me to move close to family. We didn’t know if we’d ever get the chance to live near family so we wanted them to get to know them while we had the chance.
This was the toughest year in my opinion. Emma was four and Presley was two and they both knew that daddy wasn’t around. There were several nights all throughout the year where they cried before bed, or they would be acting out and I’d ask them what the deal was and they’d respond, “I just miss daddy!” There were lots of tears and explaining that he was away working but he’ll be back as soon as he can. He was able to come home after about seven and a half months and stayed for about a month. This luckily made the last part of the year tour fly by! I thought that him leaving again after his short visit would make it harder on the girls but it actually went really well!
I know I just went on and explained our situation and didn’t really give advice. But the biggest things I recommend is to first still include him in conversation constantly! We talked about him nonstop as if he had been around all along. Second, face time as much as possible! If your spouse isn’t going to be able to video chat with you, have him record videos and send them to you. There were days that my husband was on shifts that wouldn’t allow him to talk to the kids so he would record videos and send them to me to show the girls. They loved it! Third keep busy, and keep a routine! I feel like I did a lot of the same things every single day and it honestly helped me with the time passing. Fourth, take care of yourself! I am one of those extremely stubborn people who don’t like to ask for help (my husband is probably nodding yes big time to this), but I had to have some time to myself. Luckily I have had people offer to watch my kids to give me time to get my hair done, or run errands alone, or do whatever I needed to, just to have a breather. Lastly, communicate with your spouse as much as possible, about anything and everything. This helps you and your spouse; they’re missing out on a lot and want to feel included in what you’re doing as well.
Pray often and know that you will get through it, some days will be worse than others. You’re strong and your husband will be home soon!
Got my workout in today, no not from the gym! It was from toting all four kids with me to the grocery store. I’ve been blessed the last four months to only have to take my kids to the store two or three times. But that wasn’t an option today. My husband is away on a TDY (Temporary Duty Yonder for nonmilitary folks) and I desperately needed to grab some Pampers and bread! Every aisle we walk down we get looks and stares and if I make eye contact with someone, they almost always say, “you’ve got your hands full!” Yes, yes I do!
I don’t know why this bugs me so much, because let’s face it, I do have my hands full. But when my two older girls are walking right next to the buggy behaving, my twins are quiet and smiling and I’m just going about getting what I need, I don’t like hearing it! I wish people would look at us and keep going, or say, “wow, they are so well behaved, good job momma!” I actually enjoyed taking my kids to the store because I was so proud of how everyone was behaving. I left annoyed by all the people passing judgment.
I used to hear it all the time when it was just my older two girls. Looking back, that was a piece of cake! Children are handfuls whether it’s one child or seven, you’re busy! I feel busy 98% of my day but my heart is full 100% of the time. I get so many hugs, kisses, “I love you mommy,” smiles, snuggles, and giggles. I wouldn’t trade it for the world! So next time it pops into your head “wow that lady has her hands full” think of a compliment you could pass on instead, or just don’t say anything at all. Because that mom already knows it’s a lot to handle, and chances are she was already worried about walking into the store with her kids.
How do you other moms handle hearing this?
Well the first thing I have to say is that I just scrolled through hundreds of pictures and not a single one had a picture of just me! Guess that explains a little bit about me, I always want to be surrounded by my loved ones!
My name is Danielle, I’m a military wife, mom of 4, Christian, Air Force Veteran, Coffee fanatic, Chocoholic, Fit-Ish (heavy on the ISH), Friend, Listener, Reality TV junkie and Country music fanatic.
I currently live in the Florida Panhandle with my husband and our 4 kids. Jon is my husband, Emma is my oldest (almost 6) Presley just turned 4, and we have 4 month old twins Brantley and Savannah. We also have our 2 crazy dogs Windsor a silver lab and Remy our forever shedding husky!
I decided to start this blog because I love reading other wives, moms, parents, and military spouses experiences and advice; whether it’s getting through a deployment, health, fitness, or parenting.
I have plenty of knowledge when it comes to military life, considering I grew up an Air Force brat and then joined myself and although I separated after 6 years of service I’m still living the life as a spouse. We’re coming up on 12 years this fall.
I’m really trying to get myself healthy and back in shape. Having 4 kids has done a number on my body and I’m ready more than ever to get back on track! It’s not easy considering I’m an exhausted nursing momma. But I know there’s other moms out there that are going through the same thing as me. We can get there together!
I’m looking forward to this journey, and I hope you’ll join me for the ride!