So it’s a new year and I’ve reflected a lot on this last year. I didn’t write anywhere near as much as I had wanted/planned to do! This year I’m hoping things can be different. I want to write more, and I’ve been looking into starting a podcast and having friends of mine on it. It would be geared towards military wives and moms, and just women in general. Something fun!
My four kids are growing rapidly and I’m not really sure I like it! I feel like time is flying by way too fast! I want to soak up as much time with them as possible. Feel like they’ll be off to college starting their own lives before we know it! My twins are turning 1 tomorrow and I’ve been trying to figure out where this last year went. It’s bitter sweet to me that they’re already turning 1. They are seriously two of the best babies! They’re already running around everywhere and have so much personality. My 6 year old is so impressive. She’s the most competitive child I’ve ever met; we just have to show her where to direct all of that competitiveness. She’s smart, funny, fast, and has the most caring heart. My 4 year old will give us a run for our money one day. She’s just too cute for her own good. She makes me laugh daily, and she’s a different character every time I turn around. She’s the kid you see in the grocery store dressed as a dinosaur; she has absolutely no shame in her game!
My husband and I just celebrated 10 years of marriage! Every single year together has gotten better and better. We’ve really tried to become more of a team and work together more. I’m so excited for our future and achieving all of the goals we have.
I only have a few minutes to write something down today, but I did just want to put it out there that I’m going to make this more of a priority! Talk with ya soon!
It’s been 6 months since I became a mom of 4. I’ve felt so many different emotions over the last several months. Knowing that I’ll never be pregnant again (I love being pregnant). Knowing that these are my last babies and soaking up every single thing that they do. I don’t want to miss a move! Struggling with my body image but also knowing that I carried 4 babies to full term; and 2 at once one of the times. I have been blessed to have easy and healthy pregnancies/deliveries.
After every birth I go through that stage where I just don’t like what I see in the mirror. I have stretch marks, I’m bigger, my body jiggles, my face is rounder, and I’m just struggling to like what I see. I often wish that I was one of those “lucky” girls that lose weight from nursing their babies. But then I have to remember that I am a “lucky” girl because not only can I nurse my babies, I’m nursing two at one time! I think about how I only have to make it 6 more months and then I can be done. But then I don’t want the next 6 months to fly by because that means my tiny babies are going to be toddlers!
This week I’ve really taken it in my hands to try and eat as healthy as I can and try to get myself healthy and happy! I want to take all the kids to the pool and beach and not be worried if somebody is going to see my body and judge me. I know that most people are too busy focusing on their own insecurities and flaws to really worry mine! I love that when I work out my children LOVE it! My older girls tell me to run faster, or cheer me on, or jump in and start doing squats and push-ups with me. I love that I can hold my babies to have added weight to my squats or lunges. They giggle and it keeps me going.
My husband probably thinks I’m crazy because he knows how much I love being pregnant and seeing my belly grow, but I complain for months on end after I give birth about how much I don’t like my body. “Why continue to go through that multiple times if you’re not going to like yourself after.” Well because I love my babies and I know that I will get myself back where I want to be. It’s not going to be as fast as I’d like, but it will happen.
So I’m off to start this fitness journey, hope you’ll join me, motivate me, and even throw some tips my way!
I’ve been asked numerous times how I get through deployments. I almost always answer, “I have to, there’s no other option.” Our children need me, and my husband needs to know his wife is able to handle it. We have been separated due to the military several times, sometimes for just a few weeks, sometimes a month, sometimes several months, and one time a year. We’ve been married about nine and a half years; we’ve been a part due to the military for a total of two and a half years! Which to some is a lot, and to other military spouses that’s not too bad.
Our first deployment wasn’t too bad because I was deployed at the same time; I left before him and got back a few weeks before he came home. We didn’t have children, made it so much easier! Our next big deployment wasn’t until our second daughter Presley was born and she was nine months old and Emma was two and a half. It was very hard. We were at a base where I only had two friends and luckily cousins living nearby. Emma was at the age where she realized her daddy wasn’t home and would cry out for him some times. How do you console a two year old that can’t comprehend why her daddy isn’t around? Luckily we all live in the wonderful time of facetime!
I tried to keep the kids busy as much as possible and also tried to keep myself occupied. I tried making sure we had a routine and stuck to it, and we also tried to make it where we talked to my husband around the same time every day. Children thrive off of consistency! We would go once a month to the deployed family dinners where we were surrounded by families in the same boat as us. They tried to make it as fun as possible for the kids and made them feel special. I’d take them to story time at the library, parks, swimming, ice cream dates, make giant blanket forts, church, and anything else to occupy our minds and not so focused on missing daddy.
It probably wasn’t even a month after my husband came back from this deployment that he was notified he was doing a year short tour overseas. I remember feeling so crushed! I’m one of those wives that love to always have her husband around even if we’re not doing anything. I just love his presence. We luckily had several months to prepare and this time we chose for the girls and me to move close to family. We didn’t know if we’d ever get the chance to live near family so we wanted them to get to know them while we had the chance.
This was the toughest year in my opinion. Emma was four and Presley was two and they both knew that daddy wasn’t around. There were several nights all throughout the year where they cried before bed, or they would be acting out and I’d ask them what the deal was and they’d respond, “I just miss daddy!” There were lots of tears and explaining that he was away working but he’ll be back as soon as he can. He was able to come home after about seven and a half months and stayed for about a month. This luckily made the last part of the year tour fly by! I thought that him leaving again after his short visit would make it harder on the girls but it actually went really well!
I know I just went on and explained our situation and didn’t really give advice. But the biggest things I recommend is to first still include him in conversation constantly! We talked about him nonstop as if he had been around all along. Second, face time as much as possible! If your spouse isn’t going to be able to video chat with you, have him record videos and send them to you. There were days that my husband was on shifts that wouldn’t allow him to talk to the kids so he would record videos and send them to me to show the girls. They loved it! Third keep busy, and keep a routine! I feel like I did a lot of the same things every single day and it honestly helped me with the time passing. Fourth, take care of yourself! I am one of those extremely stubborn people who don’t like to ask for help (my husband is probably nodding yes big time to this), but I had to have some time to myself. Luckily I have had people offer to watch my kids to give me time to get my hair done, or run errands alone, or do whatever I needed to, just to have a breather. Lastly, communicate with your spouse as much as possible, about anything and everything. This helps you and your spouse; they’re missing out on a lot and want to feel included in what you’re doing as well.
Pray often and know that you will get through it, some days will be worse than others. You’re strong and your husband will be home soon!