Got my workout in today, no not from the gym! It was from toting all four kids with me to the grocery store. I’ve been blessed the last four months to only have to take my kids to the store two or three times. But that wasn’t an option today. My husband is away on a TDY (Temporary Duty Yonder for nonmilitary folks) and I desperately needed to grab some Pampers and bread! Every aisle we walk down we get looks and stares and if I make eye contact with someone, they almost always say, “you’ve got your hands full!” Yes, yes I do!
I don’t know why this bugs me so much, because let’s face it, I do have my hands full. But when my two older girls are walking right next to the buggy behaving, my twins are quiet and smiling and I’m just going about getting what I need, I don’t like hearing it! I wish people would look at us and keep going, or say, “wow, they are so well behaved, good job momma!” I actually enjoyed taking my kids to the store because I was so proud of how everyone was behaving. I left annoyed by all the people passing judgment.
I used to hear it all the time when it was just my older two girls. Looking back, that was a piece of cake! Children are handfuls whether it’s one child or seven, you’re busy! I feel busy 98% of my day but my heart is full 100% of the time. I get so many hugs, kisses, “I love you mommy,” smiles, snuggles, and giggles. I wouldn’t trade it for the world! So next time it pops into your head “wow that lady has her hands full” think of a compliment you could pass on instead, or just don’t say anything at all. Because that mom already knows it’s a lot to handle, and chances are she was already worried about walking into the store with her kids.
How do you other moms handle hearing this?